Ellen Oldham

My parents got divorced in February of my senior year of high school. This was a complete shock to me as I’d never seen my parents fight, and I thought everything was fine until they sat me and my sisters down to tell us. My dad didn’t want us to tell anyone, not even our closest friends, and many people still don’t know today.
This was one of the hardest times of my life. Everything was changing for the worse and my senior year was being overshadowed by sadness and anger instead of joy and celebration. I felt so alone and abandoned, and I wasn’t able to tell others why I was feeling like this. I had to act like my family was fine.


Despite the hardships the divorce has caused, I am able to look back and see the positive things that God has done through it. God surrounded me with supportive and uplifting friends during this time. Even though they didn’t know what was going on and why I was upset and unsettled, they showered me with unconditional love.
The worship song, “Surrounded (Fight My Battles)” has the lyric “it may look like I’m surrounded, but I’m surrounded by You”. This gave me a lot of peace and comfort during this difficult time. I was able to remember that although things were rough, I was still surrounded by God and the people He put in my life.


When I felt like my family was completely falling apart, I was able to lean on my friends. They carried me through this season of life and I’m so much closer with them thanks to the divorce. My friends were true examples of God’s love and I know that I will never be alone. God will always provide for you, support you, and love you, no matter the situation. Even in my darkest spot I am able to see how God did not abandon me. He surrounded me with people in my life to show me his love when I needed it the most. 

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